I recently came across this video on the internet and was captivated by the sweetness of the little elderly couple in the video. I found myself nodding in agreement, laughing out loud, and even crying a little bit. They have been married for 72 years and made this video as a wedding toast to someone they know. In the video, they give the newlyweds some good advice that they claim has helped their marriage last so long, and it’s clear they are still very much in love. Here are their “5 tips to a long and healthy marriage”.
See what I mean!? They are precious! I got to wondering after watching this what it must be like to be married to someone for 72 years. I mean, 72 years, y’all. That’s longer than some people even live. My husband and I have only been married for five years (take a stroll down memory lane with some of our wedding photos, here) so we still have a long way to go to get to 72 years. We have had our ups and downs along the way (mostly ups!), and have learned a lot so far. The way I see it, a happy marriage is something you constantly have to work at; it’s not something that people just have, like in the movies. So, for what it’s worth, here are my 5 tips to a long and healthy marriage – based on my whopping 5 years of experience!
- Make your spouse your best friend. I can honestly say that my husband is my best friend. I can tell him anything, can be myself completely with him and can even laugh so hard I shoot food out of my nose in his presence and not get embarrassed. Now that is true love!
- Communication is key. I have found that even when I’m so mad I could spit fire at my husband, it is always better to
yelltalk it out with him. The only way to find out how to settle an argument is to find out what it stemmed from, how it can be resolved and how to prevent it from happening again in the future.
- Make time for a date night. I have had some people sort of make fun of the fact that my husband and I still have “date nights” and I just don’t get it. We honestly enjoy being in each other’s company and I think it’s important to slow down and make time for a little fun in the midst of all the stresses of everyday life.
- Do nice things for each other. Remember when you just started dating and you did nice things for each other like brought her flowers, or baked him cookies – just because?? Well, it’s not just for dating! Show the love by leaving little notes, cooking a favorite meal or simply picking up a special treat in the grocery store for your spouse.
- Share a kiss more often than once every 25 years! (This one I learned from Kenny & Selma.)
It will be interesting to look back on this blog post several years from now when we (hopefully) have children and things are much more complex than they are for us right now! I can’t wait to see what is in store for us and hope to make a video similar to Kenny and Selma’s one day.
What advice do you have for a happy marriage?
- The Secret To A 50 Year Marriage – Sliders and A Good Scotch (kateschannel.wordpress.com)